My siblings and I share the care.
Usually one sibling ends up knowing everything. Here is how care managers help families share the load.
What to do first
With or without Agensy.
Keep one record, not five group texts
Agree on one place for the medication list, the doctors and the appointment notes.
Split the work by job
One sibling handles appointments, one handles bills, one calls every Sunday. Name the jobs out loud.
Write decisions down
When the family decides something about care, write down what, why and who agreed, so it isn’t re-argued.
Give everyone a way to help
Siblings who live far away can still own tasks: refills, insurance calls, research.
Talk about money early
Who pays for what is easier to settle before a crisis than during one.
Start with one parent. It’s free for 30 days.
No credit card. Invite the rest of the family when you’re ready.